hey guess what....

[subzero]

Well, if you are gonna be gung-ho about it...

It's probably because your cock was too small

[Chuffmeister]

Yep, sorry about that. I just thought your 'i'd still be stuck with her' comment was an attempt to change the tack a little.

It was flippant at best. please accept my apologies.

But if you are going to quote me at least include the entire thing including the ' ' on the end denoting a joke.

[mamemeister]

i'm also going through messy break up at the mo - hang in there mate...things eventually work out.

Been there not once but twice and it is indeed an unpleasant thing for various reasons. It hits your pocket when you need it least ie just as you are trying to get your single life back on track and the fact that you are having to deal with someone life decided wasnt your soul mate in quite an intensive way puts a strain on both parties.

Hang in there.

I really worry that if, God forbid, I ever found myself in this position, I might not be strong enough to pull through it. Not so much the financial side, more the emotional one.

You will, honesty Simon.

The thing is if the break up was your choice then you're going to be happy since you now effectively have what you wanted ie not to be with that person. If the break up was their idea and you still loved them, you do the grieving and pining shit for so long till you see them with someone else then thing' Fuck them' and you crack on with your own life.

For me both were more or less mutual decisions based on arguments becoming more and more frequent to the point you are both so miserable and know the only way to be happy is to part company.

Regardless of how the split comes about there is always a bereavement period which does pass along with a element of sadness that things never worked out.

The human animal is a very resilient beast indeed.

[Driller]

i'm also going through messy break up at the mo - hang in there mate...things eventually work out.

Been there not once but twice and it is indeed an unpleasant thing for various reasons. It hits your pocket when you need it least ie just as you are trying to get your single life back on track and the fact that you are having to deal with someone life decided wasnt your soul mate in quite an intensive way puts a strain on both parties.

Hang in there.

I really worry that if, God forbid, I ever found myself in this position, I might not be strong enough to pull through it. Not so much the financial side, more the emotional one.

You will, honesty Simon.

The thing is if the break up was your choice then you're going to be happy since you now effectively have what you wanted ie not to be with that person. If the break up was their idea and you still loved them, you do the grieving and pining shit for so long till you see them with someone else then thing' Fuck them' and you crack on with your own life.

For me both were more or less mutual decisions based on arguments becoming more and more frequent to the point you are both so miserable and know the only way to be happy is to part company.

Regardless of how the split comes about there is always a bereavement period which does pass along with a element of sadness that things never worked out.

The human animal is a very reilient beast indeed.

Spot-on. I ended a five year relationship in 2004. Although it wasn't a divorce, it was the nearest thing to it. Saddest moment for me was going through the house looking for what was mine and packing it away. Took me a couple of days to get my stuff together because it was so entwined with my ex-partners.

Luckily mine was a civilised split and she didn't want to cheat me out of my share of the house money. I know a lot of guys have it worse.

[Wanderer]

My topic was locked, so...im getting divorced, i managed to piss off my GF and now my topic gets locked??

What THE HOLY FUCKING SHIT HELL IS GOING ON IN THIS CRAZY WORLD, noisy foriegn cunts downstairs slamming doors all fucking night, weirdos in the flat everyday buying cigarettes - FUCKING sick of it I tells you.....


Phew...WoS was right I do need to rant in public more....I feel slightly better now





(P.S. this was NOT intended to be an attack on the moderators, theyre just doing their job )

*HUGS* ... I am sorry for you. Divorse is tough. Been there. twice. Am I married? yeah, why? god knows ... stay clear, marriage can be evil financially