lisawolf wrote:
In the case of that woman, then I agree that you had a right to be annoyed/whatever by her. As to the rest...well yes there are a lot of fat people who don't look after themselves. There are also a lot of thin folks who don't.
In general I think letting yourself go is terrible...
lisawolf wrote:In certain areas here we have the 'stereotypical teenage mother': scrappy clothes, hollow cheeks, cigarette hanging out of her mouth, dribbling ash on the child, makeup usually plastered on like she was drunk...you get the picture.
Here there are a lot of overweight single mothers, living of the social and scoffing fast food - worst thing is that they feed their children fast food as well (but maybe they are just too stressed to cook for them - after all collecting social security money is an exhausting business) and what really gets me is that they turn their children into overweight little monsters, not just chubby kids but downright fat kids who won't do sports. It's so unfair because it's not like the kids do have a choice.
lisawolf wrote:I'm probably being a little sensitive over this but I've had too many friends 'told' what they should and shouldn't wear due to being greater than a size 16. I know too many overweight people (some who are overweight because of medical conditions) who have low self esteem because they are constantly being put down due to being overweight. And those same people have to 'suffer' when trying to find decent clothes. So really I've come to the conclusion that some people will find you 'offensive' no matter how well you're dressed if you're overweight, so why not just please yourself.
Due to a thyroid problem and hormonal readjustment after ovarian surgery I had serious weight problems in the past and I know it's absolutely terrible if it's medical and there is nothing you can do about it. It takes all your selfconfidence away. Luckily the things sorted themselves out and I'm sort of normal now (size-wise that is
), but I still see myself as chubby quite often and agonize if I can wear shorts or a short skirt in the summer, so I do understand. I'm not a weight nazi and I think most of us have the extra pound on our ribs, I feel for everybody who has a weight problem due to medical reasons, but I have a hard time feeling sorry for people who are simply too lazy to do sports, sit in front of the TV day in day out and stuff their faces with fat and sugar. There is a difference between being a bit bigger and carrying it off well (some people even look great) and just being a complete slob.
lisawolf wrote:Yes there are those (the fat people who have let themselves go, as well as the thin people who have) who might be 'offensive' but those are the ones who've given up. And we're not likely to change them are we? So I just ignore them and let my eyes skim past to the next man or woman who suits my fancy.
It's not so much that they have given up on themselves, the really horrid thing is that they are usually the ones who breed like rabbits and a child simply deserves better than to be brought up on a diet of sugar and fat.
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Usually the criminal could just run away from him, but then he'd suddenly be around the corner.
