Gay?

[Sickboy]

This probably has something about nervousness and being gitty when you first meet someone. You're so worried about impressing the other person and wanting them to like you that you become blind to obvious roadblocks you would have in a relationship.

There's also the thing of trying so hard to 'get a girlfriend' you end up reeking of desperation. My bestest moments have always happened when I least expected 'em - 'cos I wasn't telegraphing anything.

Rich - I agree that you can't just 'tell' whether or not two people will be, like, compatible or not, but there's a hell of a lot of truth in those involuntary little tics, body language habits, etc... Derren Brown has made a career out of it.

[koworld]

This probably has something about nervousness and being gitty when you first meet someone. You're so worried about impressing the other person and wanting them to like you that you become blind to obvious roadblocks you would have in a relationship.

There's also the thing of trying so hard to 'get a girlfriend' you end up reeking of desperation. My bestest moments have always happened when I least expected 'em - 'cos I wasn't telegraphing anything.

Rich - I agree that you can't just 'tell' whether or not two people will be, like, compatible or not, but there's a hell of a lot of truth in those involuntary little tics, body language habits, etc... Derren Brown has made a career out of it.

Yes you can read the individual but its a whole other thing to do combos.

[Sickboy]

Yes you can read the individual but its a whole other thing to do combos.

Uhuh.

I wonder if anyone has done a scientific study of dating agency 'success' rates? Tracking people who were matched up, got together, how their relationships panned out...

[moobaa]

the Fog Of The New

Ah, that's fucking brilliant to see someone else use that term. Though I like to call it "The Thrill Of The New"

[aurora]

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Or something.

The magic subsides, but the memories of how you felt can last a lifetime.

[Sickboy]

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

But it's always the ones who've loved and lost who say that. We need to ask someone who's never loved at all - get their side of the story.

[gilesgoat]

There's also the thing of trying so hard to 'get a girlfriend' you end up reeking of desperation.

Absolutely true, that is a "mistake" many people do not recognize, but
no blame .. when you are "in" you can't see exactly what you are doing.

Yes, the problem of "trying so hard" or better "trying TOO hard" in
getting a girlfriend/mate.

The reality is that in doing that more than getting close to what you
seek for, you make this thing going away from you.

I learnt this "the hard way", the fact is that while in this state you are
in an "unbalanced situation".

Who sees you from outside sees that you are trying "too hard" and
that is percieved usually as something "dangerous" you are probably
wishing/offering "too much" of what someone is able to take/give
at that moment.

My bestest moments have always happened when I least expected 'em - 'cos I wasn't telegraphing anything.

Yes, absolutely true.

Usually "when you don't expect anything" also means "you don't need
anything" (i.e. you are not in such 'try to get so hard mode') and so
you simply are "yourself" as it is.

I'd dare to say that in any kind of relation "balancing" is very
important and is "the key" of a "working relationship", you must
be able to "give" the same you "take".

... really true anyway, the very moment you stop looking for something
and you decide that you'll never find it .... there it comes ...

Sounds so silly but it's incredibly true it seems ...

[PVB]

There's also the thing of trying so hard to 'get a girlfriend' you end up reeking of desperation.

You know me so well.

[PVB]

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Or something.

The magic subsides, but the memories of how you felt can last a lifetime.

When that happens, I'll let you know how it feels.

[aurora]

When that happens, I'll let you know how it feels.

Hang in there, mate!

[PVB]

When that happens, I'll let you know how it feels.

Hang in there, mate!

I don't mind waiting for 'Miss Right', really.

At least I have the Lorraine Kelly Appreciation Society web site's regular updates to peruse.

[shimeril]

My bestest moments have always happened when I least expected 'em - 'cos I wasn't telegraphing anything.

Absolutely. Simply because you are being yourself, not trying to impress someone.

Hey, it worked for me. Married 9 years now, 2 kids, and we haven't killed each other yet. Although I think the kids are working on it though...