I've been away from the forum for a week due to returning to work and really needing to sort that aspect of life out - I get too engrossed in here and the hours go by rather fast. I've just returned in the last hour and was very confused!

This nasty turn of events is sad, but this forum tends to get back to its usual self more than any other I've ever used - says something about those that use it I think.
Yak - no-one's business but your own mate. I feel sorry that you have had to justify yourself. I guess you should take the strength in that you've always blazed your own trails in your work and personal life and I don't expect you'd change now! It's your life to lead - good luck!
As for this 'viking' (I have no idea about what happens - six days of posts behind I am) I feel really sorry for him/her. There is nothing wrong with anger or dislike of others and unfortunately this can denegrate into a lack of courtesy or decency toward people. There
is something wrong with deliberately going out of your way to cause others suffering in order to prop your own ego or agenda up. I hope this 'person' learns from this experience.